All family are the same...

I think all families are the same... everyone would quarrel with their siblings or their parents.. Every parent would nag.. and nag... and nag.. hee~ Every once in the while you really wish you can move out of this family and stay alone... From what i understand alot of my frens would wish to stay away from their parents.. Where did this idea come from? westernisation? media? TV? society? Where did the idea of taking care of your parents go? sharing and caring for your parents and siblings? when is the last time you bought food for your parents? well, it's not all our fault..

i think it takes 2 hands to clap.. Its all our parents fault we want to move out... It's not all our fault we don't buy food for our parents... in our asian society, we are not used to it.. we show our care and concern in a different way.. we don't give each other hugs often of even calling each other up has been put away.. we now show care through money.. the more money you can give the more you care.. where did this idea come from? society? Well, true enough money speaks alot of language... but does it mean you care? and the things we sae would mean different things to different people at different times...

Anywaes, do you guys remember nicholas qued up for donuts the on valentines day? we bought more donuts den we can eat and when buy we thought of sharing it with our family.. the que was like so long.. 4 hrs.. and not everyone gets to eat the donuts... of cos you would love your family to share it.. or at least appreciate it... well, first of all... george love it.. of cos.. hee~ brother say it was hard and my mum say.. 'aiyo.. que for wad..no need to que one.. also wasted... you noe we dun donut one wad..' i wad Fark! people buy for.. you just shut up la.. not thankful nevermind la... don't so many rubbish la... you wan to eat you eat .. dun wan eat dun talk cock la.. ( of cos i din sae that to my mum la) it like we can choose not to buy for out family but we chose to.. cos it's something we should get for em.. since we que VERY long for it... i really hate that feeling.. it's like you are no appreciated lor.. you did something nice but someone just think its crap... so people wants to eat the stupid donut don't get to eat you guys should be thankful ah... Of coc nic's parents din appreciate the donuts too... They were saying the donuts have trans fat... ok.. so wads trans fat? its plastic? it's margarine? well, i will google later.. and up date again later... i heard nagging for twice from 2nd day of cny till now.. it's not parents so i dun think they are nagging.. and of cos i need to look 'guai' .. so i just kept quiet... I just think if you don't bother them they wun bother you... so just take note that they are quite particular to this and not buy any thing to do with trans fat in the future for them.. so pls.. next time don't say we are nice cos we don't buy food for you guys.. cos you guys are not thankful anywaes... I think people take things for granted... after loosing someone you love then you know how important they are... for instance, now that my grandma is not around, the kueys and crackers during cny doesn't taste as good.. goin back to msia without grandma around just feel weird... So when one day we stop caring or stop being around maybe people will look at the other side of the coin... They question why don't we care anymore... why we have changed... Well, i didn't get along with my family since young.. i guess its becos i was quite 'bad' when i was in sec sch.. i answer back to my parents and fight with my brother.. so now we have difficulties communicating.. so its quite hard for us to have family bonding... for people that can talk to their mum about everything.. i cannot make myself do the same... so, different family have different difficulties faced..

I think i hate quarrels in family.. i would just keep quiet and walk away.. cos when i answer back it means more oil added into fire.. then the fight will bigger and there more friction.. so i learnt from it.. and just walk away or ignore what i heard.. or just answer back to myself.. to save ' trouble'.. and it will get better or they will just forget about it... nic shouted at his dad today... it was really inapropriate... he shouldn't do it.. his dad is quite old... and he shouldn't have brought back pizza cos it contains TRANS FAT... ( my brother would love it.. lol) but i dunno why the mum was also involved.. i couldn't walk away.. so i just sat there quietly... wad made me upset was that his mum actually said ..' Even BLahBLah's Gerfren knows what's trans fat.' i was quite puzzled as i was wondering was that directed to me.. cos there no point bringing other people's gerfren out for this conversation.. i was actually quite hurt la.. it just hinted to me that.. other people's gerfren noe wads trans fat your gerfren dunno meh.. cannot take care of you meh.. I just avoid as many meet the parents times as much as possible.. cos they are not my parent.. i'm comfortable with my own parents already.. i dun wan them to hate me.. I'm high a 'I" person.. so i dun like people to hate me... it will take it very hard... after she like repeat it twice... i was shocked la... cos i did step on her tail.. why must she get involved... i cannot control wad your son eat.. pls... i wish i can eat healthy food too.. i wan to be slim too.. I guess its not easy to have strangers to like you.. and its not easy for you to feel comfortable when you are at other people's territory..


well, my cny went not too bad... but there are still some family problems too...I went for nic's family gathering.. ( yes~ i hate gatherings after this) They were saying maybe next year we will still me.. but nics brother say .. well, you'll never know... i was like... Argggg... pls le.. u think i gian havinglunch with you ah... you think your 5 bucks red packet i very gian ah.. pls le... you think i really wan to be your family... i gian wad... ( these was in my heart la) i couldn't take it... i smiled and rolled my signature eyes... Sometimes you have think what you have to offer before you critise what other people can offer.. if you can offer peanuts.. people's coconut is much better than yours... well, i guess family members love to say words that hurt the most so that when people say hurting words to you ... you won't get crashed... well, i guess he take me as a family now.. cos he's hurting me so badly..I'm starting to understand what does it mean as it takes 2 hands to clap... it just depends which hand comes out first....

Now there are so parents hoping their kids will go and visit them often.. or even bring their grand children to visit them... they might only see them during cny.. sometimes.. they rather travel than visit them... well, i guess more or less karma too.. if you don't visit your parents.. your kids might think they dun have to visit you too... so, if you nag at your kids... they wun wan to visit you.. they would wan to stay away from you .. think about... if nic would not bring pizza home.. there would not be any quarrels... if i was not at the lunch gathering.. i would not be pissed .. and having a bad impression of nic's brother... so, it all begins with what you do in the first place.. is it right? does it matter to another person? is it related to a quarrel? You would only treasure it when its gone.. and you'll missed it when its gone..